Hi Guys (and girls too) -- today has been another interesting day . . . . we took a long walk today and explored more of Uralsk. Trying to find yarn for Hailee's art project -- she doesn't have enough black. Do you know that yarn is not something that they have here? Lots of tatting thread but no yarn.
When we arrived at the orphanage today it was amazing and heartwarming -- kids were everywhere, following the car in. Our doors were opened and they wanted to shake our hands and talk with us -- everyone except our new daughter. She was in her classroom and when asked what she wanted to do would not answer. After much talking between Luba, our translator, and the caretaker it was decided that for our visit today we would go to the park. We thought that would be wonderful -- after all it's where we took Hailee on the magic day she finally showed us her happy, carefree self -- the day we knew she was right for our family. We piled into the car (literally - it's only a volkswagon passat - 4 is tight - 5 is really, really tight!) and drove the half hour to the park.
It's a beautiful day here -- warm and mostly sunny. The Chagala (spelling?) river is so nice we spent some time enjoying the doves that are milling around the water. They are very pretty - blues, purples and grays. The park doubles as an amusement park on the weekends complete with ferris wheel (known to them as the wheel of terror - course I can understand that, it's very old and rusty looking), there are other kiddie type rides and a few newer ones. I think we were grateful it's only Tuesday, not sure if we would have felt comfortable putting the kids on them.
As for the actual visit -- there was none really. No talking, no interaction, no smiling for pictures -- nothing. We're feeling very confused right now. When we returned to the orphanage she took off -- didn't turn around to say goodbye until Luba went to get her. Luba said that she seemed upset -- when asked why there was no answer ........... now we are struggling with what to do and feel ...........
After our internet session today we are going to talk with Yulia to see what her feelings are. We understand that Kiera Saltanat is a teenager and moods are part of it . . . . but it was like a different child today ..........
Any help or insights would be greatly appreciated at this time . . . . .
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
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Do you think it might have hit her that she would now be leaving there. The only world she knows and that EVERYTHING would be changing? She will never see her friends again. I think that would be a lot to handle even if, in reality, it is all for the best. It might be hard to see that through the eyes of a teenager. Just keep trying to get her to open up and express her fears.
Lucky for her, you don't give up easily.
Love ya!
Well we all knew it wasn't going to be easy, but...
My thoughts on this day would be to talk to the interpreter and have her discuss with Saltennat how you NEED her to talk, display or somehow convey that she REALLY wants you as a family, and if that is what she truly feels, then she needs to be told that this is not how it is done. Breaking the ice is not easy, do you think she realizes how hard this is for all of you?
If she was told of the sacrifices you have all made, and are still making to welcome her into your family, would she maybe understand and feel some bond? I think the teenager thing plays a large part in this, because she will lose all that she knows, she needs to hear how this will be replaced with new friends in a few months, a family love she has never known and all the wonderful opportunities that await her here. Is it scary, yes, is her other option scarier? I would think so..has she tried to learn any English while you are together? Maybe a type of word association game would help you to all bond. Wish I could be of more help, am only trying to think of things that will make these days more meaningful for all of you. Keep a stiff upper lip, hope Hailee is alright. We send our love and prayers to you all.
Just specultation, but, once she made her decision and seemed ready to move forward, she probably talked to her friends and in addition to her own fears and reservations (which Linda nailed head on), they heaped theirs on her too. Along with that, they may be jealous that she is getting a great family and instead of being happy for her are giving her a hard time and making her feel guilty for leaving them.
Prayers don't stop just because she said OK.
Love, Lori
The best things in life are worth waiting for...isn't that how the saying goes??? As anxious and excited as you are to begin bonding and loving your daughter, I'm sure she is full of fear of the unknown. Plus, the thought of leaving behind everything, the only things, she's ever known has got to be extremely scary. Hopefully, with time, she will begin to open up and share some of herself with you. As hard as it is to be patient and understanding, that's probably what she needs most right now. Whatever happens and however things go, she is one very, very, very lucky girl. She may not understand that quite yet, but she will in time.
Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with you. :)
Hailee...are you writing in that journal??? I'm looking forward to seeing it when you get home, along with all of the great pics you're taking :)
Hi Mom, Dad, and Hailee!
I agree with everyone else, and couldn't have said anything above and beyond what our wise family and friends have said. Know that I love you VERY much, and hopefully your next visit will be better, and with each visit things will get better, and bonding with her will begin to not have to be so challenging, instead it will be fun. I am so happy for the daily updates, I read them a few times a day and it makes me feel closer to you since we are so far away. I LOVE YOU...Love Lisa
Ditto on all of the above. I also stand by my statement yesterday :). By the way were thousands of miles away when I was a pain before :)
Hi Guys -
You are all still in our thoughts and prayers.....fresh start Wednesday.
Love You All -
Maria, Brian, Owen & Avery Sell
Hello Hailee!
It was so nice to see pictures of you and your new home! It looks like you are very happy and I'm sure you're going to come home with many wonderful stories and memories.
The guided reading group was reading your blog on Friday and they all miss you! They finished reading Mr. Popper's Penguins today. In math we just started adding fractions. How are your math facts going? How many entries do you have in your travel journal? I look foward to reading them! What has been the favorite part of your journey so far?
Cheryl and Jack, trust your heart and know that prayers are being sent your way.
Take Care,
Becky
Comment from Hailee for Mrs. H. - I am doing my math facts, I'm doing workbook pages everyday and I am writing in my journal each day (except a couple).
Say Hi to Kamal, Caitlyn and Enrique and Keneau -- I miss everyone. And you too Mrs. Hoschield.
See you soon!
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