Happy Birthday to Jack -- many years (okay many, many) I teased Jack that when he turned 30 I was going to trade him in for a newer model -- I’m so glad I didn’t! In honor Jack’s birthday he had his favorite breakfast -- the sort of omelet -- for dinner he shall enjoy homemade hamburgers and fries. We’ll skip the cake tonight since we’ll have one tomorrow for Hailee’s birthday.
The day is bright, the weather beautiful and we joined the Nelson’s for a long walk. We fed the pigeons and met their new son -- he is a happy little guy and entertained all of us with his antics. An enjoyable couple hours -- we have been blessed to be here with such wonderful people.
We are still very emotional about everything right now, talking about it with the Nelsons was difficult. Hailee is talking about her feelings and expresses extreme anger at the aunt for waiting so long to contact Vika. I am happy that she is talking about it. She is also full of contradictions right now -- she is afraid to leave here without a sister -- she is afraid to stay here and care about someone again. She doesn’t want to miss more school -- she wants to stay and find someone. It goes on and on.
For Jack and I it’s just as difficult -- planning an addition to our family has been something we have hoped and dreamed of. It has consumed our lives for almost a year -- how do you just let that go. There’s a feeling of failure. There’s feelings of emptiness and deep, deep sorrow. While talking with Jack I told him that I felt very much like I did years ago when our daughter was stillborn -- he said he felt the same.
There was so much hope and love with Vika, you wouldn’t think it could be that way in 14 days but it happened. It’s hard to know what to do ……….. where do you go from here?
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Happy Birthday Little Brother!!
I am off to church in a few minutes, I'm going to have a word with the big guy up there, I'm quite upset with him right now, I have to try and understand what he is up too. Glad you had a nice day with friends. I'll write more later, love you all.
Happy Birthday Jack! We're so glad she didn't trade you in for a newer model also. It's nice to see you will have a little of your favorite foods today. It's 7:00 a.m. here and the sun is shining right now, but it's cool. I think in the 50's.
It is so good that Hailee is expressing her feelings to you. It's important to take them into consideration when making this very important decision. In just looking at the pictures of you guys with Vika there is no doubt that you genuinely love her and care for her. There is no time line for that...it just happens.
There also should be no "feeling of failure" on your part. The outcome of each of the unique situations has been out of your control. You have been there for each of the girls. You have offered your heart and your home, but unfortunately the deciding factor has not been given to you.
Now you must search your hearts for the decision that only you can make for your family right now. You can do that knowing that, no matter what decision you make, you have SO MANY loving and caring family members and friends that will support you.
We love you guys so much!
Happy Birthday Uncle Jack!! I'm glad to hear that, despite everything that is going on, you were able to enjoy your day.
I'm glad to hear that Hailee is sharing her feelings. We're all feeling so, so bad for her. She she is such a mature, strong young lady.
As far as a feeling of failure, that is so understandable, yet so unjustified. You are all such incredibly wonderful, strong, giving, loving people... Unfortunately, all 3 situations were completely out of your control. It's truly hard to understand how families work over there...it's all so different from what we know and believe in here. Please know that, whatever you all decide, everyone is behind you 100%. Should you find it in your hearts to try yet once again, you've got the love and support of everyone with you. Should you decide it's time to come home, you'll find everyone here excited to see you and waiting for you with open arms and lots of hugs! I can't imagine how excruciatingly painful this is for all of you. As always...He's got a plan, even though none of us understand it or like it at ALL right now.
Hugs to everybody and a Happy Birthday to Hailee tomorrow!!!
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Happy birthday dear pops/grandpa;
Happy birthday to you!!
Hope you were at least able to enjoy your day a little today. We will have your surprise for you when you get back to the states.
Happy Birthday brother in law. I am kind of glad Cheryl didnt trade you in either. Just kiddin I don't know what I would do without you. Their would be nobody to give me a hard time.... Well, I FEEL for you guys.... I HOPE you follow your hearts. It will know the right thing to do.
Don't think of yourselves as failures. You can't control what has happened. I know this has been emotionally draining and hard on all of you but I hope that you are able to bring home a sister for Hailee and a daughter for yourselves. I'll be back on tomorrow to wish Hailee a happy birthday. haven't heard anything more on dad. I am going to call today and see how he is doing. love and a big hug to you all..... kim
Hi Hailee,
Happy Birthday. I'm surprised your time is so far ahead of ours. I wanted to write tomorrow, but Grandma said it would be over already. Hope you get to do something fun on your birthday. How are you liking the food there? We started baseball already. Kylie is liking it, she thought she wouldn't.
from, Jake Klein #7
Happy Birthday Jack:
Happy Birthday today to Uncle Jack and Happy Birthday tomorrow to Hailee! Hope you both have a wonderful birthday this year.
Thank you Aunt Cheryl for emailing me this webpage before you left. I know you guys have been gone for over a month...I think about you all the time and don't even know where to begin! Well...one month later I have read every blog and am completely caught up! I enjoyed the postings and pictures, although it has been somewhat of a roller coaster. I spent several hours smiling, crying, feeling excited and shocked, laughing, more crying, wishing, praying...all while taking everything in! Words can not express how much I appreciate what you guys are doing and how strong you have been.
Thank you for doing such a great job of keeping up updated! Now I am the one who needs to do a better job. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you guys and hope you return home soon with a daughter. Everything happens for a reason, we just don't always understand why some things happen when they do. My thoughts are with you all every day and I hope that things begin to fall into place for you this week.
As for me, I barely survived final exams last week, have this week of school off and then start summer school next week after Memorial Day. School and work have been consuming my life and I still can't believe I have to take 3 summer classes (I've never had to before), but all in all, I am loving the OT program.
Take care and know that I am thinking of you. It is my goal to get better at getting on the computer everyday to check out the website and leave a message, on both yours and Jon, Amanda, and Hayden's. Lots of love. Talk to you soon!
Happy Birthday today to Uncle Jack and Happy Birthday tomorrow to Hailee! Hope you both have a wonderful birthday this year.
Thank you Aunt Cheryl for emailing me this webpage before you left. I know you guys have been gone for over a month...I think about you all the time and don't even know where to begin! Well...one month later I have read every blog and am completely caught up! I enjoyed the postings and pictures, although it has been somewhat of a roller coaster. I spent several hours smiling, crying, feeling excited and shocked, laughing, more crying, wishing, praying...all while taking everything in! Words can not express how much I appreciate what you guys are doing and how strong you have been.
Thank you for doing such a great job of keeping up updated! Now I am the one who needs to do a better job. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you guys and hope you return home soon with a daughter. Everything happens for a reason, we just don't always understand why some things happen when they do. My thoughts are with you all every day and I hope that things begin to fall into place for you this week.
As for me, I barely survived final exams last week, have this week of school off and then start summer school next week after Memorial Day. School and work have been consuming my life and I still can't believe I have to take 3 summer classes (I've never had to before), but all in all, I am loving the OT program.
Take care and know that I am thinking of you. It is my goal to get better at getting on the computer everyday to check out the website and leave a message, on both yours and Jon, Amanda, and Hayden's. Lots of love. Talk to you soon!
Sorry! I think I accidentally posted twice...first time user...can you tell? Just wanted to make sure you got it. :)
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